I'm not saying he or she can't be offended - I'm saying he or she doesn't have to be such an ass about it and turn it into this mess, where we all look like dipshits who can't stand each other.
And this line is just as bad. We need to remember that how something is said is just as important as what is said.
"Fixing" a prompt to essentially say "yes, I'm calling myself an ableist and am freely admitting it" can hurt worse than someone saying "I find this prompt insulting and ableist, would you please consider rewording it?"
Why can't the minority who deals with people being dicks about their minority status every day in real life be nicer to me when I insult them/ make their plight out to be a kink? I'm priviledged and sheltered and being told I insulted someone who gets enough crap already hurts my feewings.
I have never been a dick to you about being a minority - whatever your minority may be - but I have lived with people being dicks to me because I live with disabled people. And I have lived with disabled people being dicks to me because they are disabled, and they think that gives them the right to be dicks.
I am not privileged, and I am not sheltered. I work hard every day, for eight hours a day, Monday through Friday, and still don't make enough to live in a decent apartment. Because I don't have the choice to ignore the needs of the disabled in my life, who need my money for food while they spend their disability checks on beer every weekend. I get my feelings hurt every day, and I deal with it, because it is my life.
What hurts me more is someone who doesn't know me telling me that all that hurt and all that work means nothing, because it's wrong to want a fic where magic happens and someone can take a situation similar to mine and make it feel good for both parties. Where there can be a happy ending.
I'm done saying I'm sorry to you. You obviously don't care. Please don't respond to this again, because I won't be responding.
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(frozen) Re: Please, don't say anything. Even the subject line is full of fail.
Date: 2011-03-17 11:54 pm (UTC)(frozen) Re: Please, don't say anything. Even the subject line is full of fail.
Date: 2011-03-17 11:55 pm (UTC)(frozen) Re: Please, don't say anything. Even the subject line is full of fail.
Date: 2011-03-18 12:01 am (UTC)"Fixing" a prompt to essentially say "yes, I'm calling myself an ableist and am freely admitting it" can hurt worse than someone saying "I find this prompt insulting and ableist, would you please consider rewording it?"
(frozen) Re: Please, don't say anything. Even the subject line is full of fail.
Date: 2011-03-18 12:44 am (UTC)Why can't the minority who deals with people being dicks about their minority status every day in real life be nicer to me when I insult them/ make their plight out to be a kink? I'm priviledged and sheltered and being told I insulted someone who gets enough crap already hurts my feewings.
(frozen) Re: Please, don't say anything. Even the subject line is full of fail.
Date: 2011-03-18 12:51 am (UTC)(frozen) Re: Please, don't say anything. Even the subject line is full of fail.
Date: 2011-03-18 12:56 am (UTC)I have never been a dick to you about being a minority - whatever your minority may be - but I have lived with people being dicks to me because I live with disabled people. And I have lived with disabled people being dicks to me because they are disabled, and they think that gives them the right to be dicks.
I am not privileged, and I am not sheltered. I work hard every day, for eight hours a day, Monday through Friday, and still don't make enough to live in a decent apartment. Because I don't have the choice to ignore the needs of the disabled in my life, who need my money for food while they spend their disability checks on beer every weekend. I get my feelings hurt every day, and I deal with it, because it is my life.
What hurts me more is someone who doesn't know me telling me that all that hurt and all that work means nothing, because it's wrong to want a fic where magic happens and someone can take a situation similar to mine and make it feel good for both parties. Where there can be a happy ending.
I'm done saying I'm sorry to you. You obviously don't care. Please don't respond to this again, because I won't be responding.
(frozen) Re: Please, don't say anything. Even the subject line is full of fail.
Date: 2011-03-18 01:04 am (UTC)Tata. As you won't be responding, I shan't expect to hear anymore from you.