It makes me think a bit how Harry's attitude towards casual sex would be different if he were a woman. Would she still be all about sex needing to mean something, or would years of knowing that, as a woman, she's expected to think that change her mind?
My take is that Harry still wants sex to mean something-- that she still needs a connection and needs some kind of... well, reason to think the person isn't going to use the personal connection to hurt her.
Canon!Harry, for various reasons, is all about sex that means something, which makes a lot of sense. Given how much of his life is... well, he's spent a lot of it with people fucking with his mind, trying to deprive him of agency, for whom he was an object or something to be used and sex does make you vulnerable. It makes sense that he want to be able to trust someone's character*, that anyone that he lets that close should be someone he'd want to be close to.
Not that I think he thinks about it that much and I suspect most of this is on a much more lizard-brain level.
My take on a female Harry is much the same, but with possibly (I'd hope) with more of a fuck-you attitude to attempts at controlling her sex life. That is, she still, on the whole, gets off on having that connection, feels she can relax more if she's fucking someone she trusts, but with a hearty fuck-off at anyone that tries to judge her sex life (or lack thereof), at anyone that tries to leverage whether she does or doesn't into some kind of power. And sometimes she wants to get laid.
*Which is not to say that he has to trust 100% of their motivations or potential actions.
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Date: 2011-02-19 02:59 am (UTC)It makes me think a bit how Harry's attitude towards casual sex would be different if he were a woman. Would she still be all about sex needing to mean something, or would years of knowing that, as a woman, she's expected to think that change her mind?
Re: Manners 1/1 (Reposted because of HTMLfail)
Date: 2011-02-19 03:32 am (UTC)Canon!Harry, for various reasons, is all about sex that means something, which makes a lot of sense. Given how much of his life is... well, he's spent a lot of it with people fucking with his mind, trying to deprive him of agency, for whom he was an object or something to be used and sex does make you vulnerable. It makes sense that he want to be able to trust someone's character*, that anyone that he lets that close should be someone he'd want to be close to.
Not that I think he thinks about it that much and I suspect most of this is on a much more lizard-brain level.
My take on a female Harry is much the same, but with possibly (I'd hope) with more of a fuck-you attitude to attempts at controlling her sex life. That is, she still, on the whole, gets off on having that connection, feels she can relax more if she's fucking someone she trusts, but with a hearty fuck-off at anyone that tries to judge her sex life (or lack thereof), at anyone that tries to leverage whether she does or doesn't into some kind of power. And sometimes she wants to get laid.
*Which is not to say that he has to trust 100% of their motivations or potential actions.